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How to Fail Successfully

by Alexandra Weaver- Lifestyles Editor
Tue, Sep 19th 2017 06:00 pm
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Failure is an inevitable part of life. A lot of people are afraid of failure, but if you take the initiative, you can learn from failure. Failure
might be a 10-point word in scrabble, but in real life it's worth immeasurable value.
Photo from Wikipedia Commons Failure is an inevitable part of life. A lot of people are afraid of failure, but if you take the initiative, you can learn from failure. Failure might be a 10-point word in scrabble, but in real life it's worth immeasurable value.

With college and the process of transitioning into a young adult inevitably comes failure. Many students will fail a course or two, fail at a job or an activity. Learning how to accept and learn from your failures is crucial to taking care of yourself. While it’s easy to feel crushed by failure, you can’t let it stop you from living your life and achieving your goals. It’s best to avoid failing in the first place, but sometimes there is truly nothing you can do. This article will cover how to try and avoid failing as best as possible, how to be good to yourself after a failure and how to stay motivated afterward. 

There are a few ways to keep yourself from failing in the first place. Regardless of the situation, the best thing to do is usually to ask for help. Whether it’s a class or work, your professors or boss would usually rather you ask them for help if you’re struggling or not sure what you’re doing than give you a low grade or have to write you up. 

All professors have office hours and are usually willing to set up an appointment to see you if their office hours aren’t compatible with your schedule. If you need help, it’s best to get it as early as possible. If you don’t understand the material, even though you’re listening in class and doing the reading, or if you think you understand the material and are still struggling with the tests or recieving low grades, then you probably need to see your professor for help. 

If you understand the content of a class but your writing skills are dragging your grade down, there are writing tutors all over campus. The Student Learning Center has writing tutors, as well as tutors in different subjects. Students can schedule appointments by phone at 585- 395-2293. Getting help with your writing can really save your essay grades, which, will in turn, save your overall grade. 

Unfortunately, sometimes failure is inevitable. It’s not great, but it’s a fact of life. Failure can be disappointing, but it doesn’t need to define you. 

When you feel like you’ve failed, take a beat to dust yourself off and bandage your wounds. It’s important not to let one failure get you so disappointed that you lose your drive. Indulge in a little bit of self-care to lift your spirits. Everyone feels nourished by different things. If you don’t know what lifts you back up when you’re feeling low, try cooking a healthy meal for yourself, taking a bubble bath, treating yourself to something that you’ve wanted to buy for a while or just getting to bed early. Whatever works for you, do it. 

While it’s not exactly possible to take a break from work or school, sometimes taking a short break from an activity that you failed at can help you feel better. If it’s something you can take a break from, such as acting if you didn’t get a call back, and you think a break would help you, take one 

After taking a little time to recover your spirits, it’s important to get back up. Child Mind Institute details research in child psychology has shown that it’s crucial to help kids learn how to fail. Failure can lead to meltdowns and anxiety if it’s handled wrong. While you may not have been taught how to fail gracefully as a child, it’s never too late to learn. The article is written for parents to help their children, but occasionally you need to be your own parent. Sometimes, you need to tell yourself the reassuring things that you wish you were told as a kid. 

Empathize with yourself. Really accept and acknowledge that you are disappointed rather than trying to bottle it up. Accept it, but don’t dwell. Instead, come up with a strategy. Figure out how you will adapt and what you need to do for yourself to better your situation. Once you figure out your strategy, take action to implement it. Register for the course again, but this time take it over the summer when you can really concentrate on it. Try out for the next play after working with an accent coach or reading your lines more. Train harder so that you can make the team next year. 

At the top of Forbes’s list, “Five Ways To Make Peace With Failure” is this: don’t make it personal. This is possibly the most important thing of all to remember. Too often, we’re taught to measure our self-worth by our accomplishments rather than by the strength of our character, the way that we treat others or anything else that truly matters. Always remember that your accomplishments are separate from yourself. Of course, this is a difficult thing to remember sometimes. It may even require therapy in the long-term, as society has us poisoned to believe that you’re worth nothing if you’re not successful 

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